6 Surprising Reasons Why You Can't Get Comfortable in Your Bed

Last Updated on December 1, 2022

by Marc Werner, Founder - GhostBed

Crawling into bed to rest and recharge after a long day is a reward we all deserve. After all, sleep is essential for our health and wellness. You can't be the best version of yourself without it.

So, if you're tossing and turning at night and can't figure out why, consider this your reminder to get to the bottom of your sleep troubles—stat! Here, we’ll review 6 possible reasons why you can't get comfortable in bed and provide some simple solutions for getting the rest you need.

Overview: Here’s Why You’re Not Sleeping

What's keeping you awake at night? These 6 culprits may be to blame:

  1. Your health
  2. Your environment
  3. Using the wrong mattress for your sleeping style
  4. Using the wrong pillow
  5. Your partner disrupting you
  6. Your temperature
A woman tries to get comfortable on her GhostBed Mattress and GhostPillow.

1. Your Health

Sleeping with a chronic illness can be challenging. And missing out on sleep can actually make your health problems even worse. It's a vicious cycle. Luckily, there's a lot you can do to get back on track to a healthier sleep routine. Before we go into that, let's first examine how different health conditions can affect sleep quality and duration.

Note: Any tips we provide about sleeping with a health condition are simply suggestions based on our 20+ years in the sleep industry. Always check with your doctor regarding any health-related questions.

Fibromyalgia

Fibromyalgia is a chronic condition that, experts believe, is caused by genetics. Symptoms include muscle and joint pain, and stiffness throughout the body. It’s no surprise that those with fibromyalgia have trouble getting comfortable at bedtime.

How to fix it: Aside from speaking with your doctor, look for a mattress that provides the softness needed to cradle your tender spots, but is firm enough to keep you from sinking in. Hybrid and memory foam styles are your best bet.

Weight

Plus-sized sleepers face their own unique set of challenges. You might have trouble getting in and out of bed, or you may have conditions like sleep apnea or acid reflux.

How to fix it: Investing in an adjustable base may be the answer to getting comfortable at night. An adjustable base will allow you to raise and lower your head and feet, soothing various common ailments faced by heavier people.

Asthma

Breathing issues like sleep apnea and asthma are known causes of poor sleep. This is because sufferers often wake up throughout the night because of disrupted breathing and the sound of their own snoring!

How to fix it: Adjustable beds are fantastic for those with asthma and sleep apnea. When you sleep with your head elevated, your airways stay open, which means better rest for you (and your partner).

Back Pain

If you've been lucky enough to move through life without a bout of sleep-disrupting back pain, consider yourself lucky! Back pain affects a large portion of the population. In fact, a whopping 39 percent of adults in the US reported they had experienced back pain within the past three months in a recent survey.

How to fix it: The low-hanging fruit here is to try a new sleeping position that could help relieve your back pain. Or you could consider upgrading your mattress. To soothe your aching back, think of ergonomics. Your bed should adequately support the body while contouring to your curves. Hybrid memory foam mattresses, like our GhostBed Flex, can do just that!

Stress

Stress takes an emotional and physical toll. And far too many of us live with the consequences of poor sleep and lack of enthusiasm for the day ahead. But you can change all that!

How to fix it: Cutting stressful situations and people out of your life can do wonders for your health (and sleep). But that's sometimes easier said than done. So, instead, try working some mindfulness techniques into your routine.

Pregnancy

Any pregnant woman will tell you how troubling it can be not to sleep when your body is doing so much hard work to bring a new human into the world. Muscle, ligament and joint pain are standard, as are acid reflux and insomnia.

How to fix it: Many experts recommend sleeping on your side when you’re pregnant. Elevating your head slightly can also help you get comfortable.

2. Your Environment

Good sleep may be hard to come by if your bedroom is too bright, loud or stimulating. Simple things like the sound of a clock ticking or a crack of light coming in your window can be enough to frustrate you into a night of tossing and turning.

According to experts, staying cool is also essential for quality sleep. Some professionals recommend setting your thermostat between 60-67 degrees Fahrenheit.

How to fix it: To block out distracting sounds, consider earplugs, running a fan or using a white noise machine. A silk sleeping mask can be a luxurious solution to cut down on light intrusion. For something more practical, light-blocking curtains may just do the trick. To keep temperatures in the proper range for optimal sleep, try turning down the thermostat a few degrees 2 hours before bedtime.

Want to do more to keep yourself cool as a cucumber at bedtime? Read our cooling tips for better sleep.

3. You Need a New or Different Mattress Style

Depending on your go-to sleep position, you may be using the wrong mattress. Sleeping on a bed that isn't ideal for your sleeping style can make getting comfortable a real challenge. Check out our suggestions below for each position.

Side Sleepers

Side sleepers will benefit from a softer memory foam mattress, as it will mold to the heavier parts of your body when you’re on your side.

Back Sleepers

Back sleepers should look for a mattress with "the best of both worlds" in the form of a hybrid memory foam mattress. Hybrids combine different materials to offer a balance of comfort and support.

Stomach Sleepers

Stomach sleepers will want a mattress with a high-density foam core for spinal alignment, and a soft contouring feel to keep pressure off your ribs and organs throughout the night.

Combination Sleepers

Combination sleepers are the lucky ones. They can choose almost any mattress. Still, many tend to prefer hybrid memory foam options because of the ideal mix of support and comforting contour.

4. You’re Using the Wrong Pillow

Like with mattresses, every sleeper has unique requirements for selecting the right pillow. If you're using something too flimsy or too stuffed, you could be setting yourself up for a night of listless tossing and turning.

How to fix it: Do a little research on what type of pillows typically work for your sleeping style. We offer a variety of pillows to suit back, side and combo sleepers alike.

5. Your Temperature

As we mentioned above, the temperature of your room can determine whether you sleep well or not. But sometimes, the temperature is out of our hands.

In that case, consider investing in:

It may be the ideal workaround to conquering uncomfortable temperatures that keep you awake.

6. Your Partner is Disrupting You

A couple falls asleep on their GhostBed mattress

Sleeping next to the one you love can help deepen your bond. But it can also be a sore spot for some couples. For example, if you're married to a snorer, you could become frustrated and resentful due to all the disruption. If you work different schedules, one partner may be deep in their R.E.M. sleep while the other wants to sit up and read a book while receiving a relaxing massage.

Suppose you find yourself in a situation where you and your partner have different needs for getting comfortable. In that case, we recommend considering upgrading to a Split King Adjustable Set. A flexible split king mattress allows you and your partner to choose the mattress and position that is right for you.

Bedtime Tips to Fall Asleep Faster and Stay Asleep Longer

You want to sleep well, so why isn't your body cooperating? It could be due to any of the factors we mentioned above. If you're unsure what keeps you from getting comfortable in your bed, try a few of these simple tips and see where they take you.

  • Make sure your bedroom is cool, quiet, dark and free of stimuli and distractions.
  • Try not to ruminate on the fact you can't sleep. It'll only make it worse. Instead, practice mindfulness through deep breathing or meditation.
  • Talk to your doctor if your inability to sleep affects your overall health and wellness.
  • Identify and cut out stressors that leave your mind racing at the end of the day.
  • Replace old, sagging mattresses, worn-out sheets and lumpy pillows when the time comes.
  • Consider upgrading to a split king adjustable bed if you and your partner find yourself at odds come bedtime.

Hopefully these tips help you get to the bottom of what’s stopping you from getting comfortable at night. Still have questions or concerns? We’re here to help! With 20+ years in the mattress industry, we know a thing or two about great sleep. Chat with our Sleep Experts today, or take Marc’s Mattress Quiz to get your personalized recommendation!


Marc Werner - Founder, GhostBed

Marc Werner

Founder - GhostBed

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After undergoing three neck surgeries, Marc knew what it was like to live and sleep in constant pain. In 2001, after searching fruitlessly for a comfortable pillow and mattress that supported his neck and back ... Learn More

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